It takes a lot to offend me, but not much to hurt my feelings.
Here's the story (with a little backstory first). My parents live in a three story house. My mom and sister spend most of their time on the main floor (second floor) and my dad spends most of his time in the basement since that's where his office, tv and netflix/dvd/blurays are.
My husband goes up to his parent's house once a week to spend time with his son (they live closer to him than we do so it makes more sense for him to go to their house instead of coming home.) Sometimes he will stay part of the week so he wont have to go up, come back home and then two days later go up again to get Hunter for our weekend.
Recently Steve came home and told me that he and his dad were talking about me. My father-in-law was commenting on my loud voice (which has been pointed out to me in the past by others but sometimes I forget I'm talking loud) and how sometimes I'm talking so loud (and maybe even too much) that he has to go to his room.
Now the part that REALLY hurt my feelings. My father-in-law said he can understand why my dad always goes downstairs when I'm over (because I'm too loud.)
Now he was probably joking about that, but it still hurt. I can't get it out of my head and now I'm almost too afraid to talk when I'm visiting my in-laws.
I know I have a loud voice, but in my family if you don't have a loud voice you wont be heard. It's not something I do on purpose. I never know it until someone points it out to me.
I am sorry you feel this way. He didn't mean to hurt or bring you any pain. He was joking and I wasn't going to tell. Someone once told me "Not everything needs to be said." I think this may have been one of those times. Please forgive me for having such a big mouth and for telling you in such an insensitive way. I love you, we can talk to my dad, so you can hear it straight from the horses mouth. I may not have heard correctly, as I butcher most stories I re-tell. Keep in mind, there are two sides to every story.
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